Monday, April 29, 2024

Resetting Life’s Compass!

These days, I am developing and maintaining a new habit and therefore, I am a little tired. I think using digital space more than usual also makes me feel tired. 

Yesterday, someone I do not know invited me to connect on LinkedIn. I accepted it and checked the profile. It could be a fake one as no proper information was found, so I decided to disconnect from her.

Having lived in the US for 2 years, I am fully aware of the possibility of “identity theft”, so I hibernated my LinkedIn account for a while. After 24 hours, I can return there any time I want.

I received news that one of my cousin’s daughters is getting married. When she was young, her mother told me she read one of my novels every day. I think she looked up to me at that time, but I am not sure I really lived up to her expectations. 

I may not live up to the expectations of many people in my life, but well, I am just me and I am really tired of living up to people’s expectations. These days, I am just happy if I can finish most of the daily tasks I have created for myself.

Recently, I was worrying about something and therefore, I forgot about the things I used to worry about daily. I learned that the mind cannot handle all worries at once and therefore, it will give space for bigger issues. My small problems seem to disappear with a relatively bigger problem. If I have no problem, my mind will create something to worry about anyway. That’s why “third world problems” and “first world problems” my brother used to refer to exist.

My mind is occupied with the tasks I have created for myself most of the time and therefore, my worrying time is relatively less these days. I have a “white bear” for the time being and I am giving it space during dedicated times. I will think about it on the weekends or during my lunch breaks or in the evening. Now I know how to deal with “white bears” a little better.

I found a post which said “life starts at 50” and I was thinking, it is good information for me. Previously, people said “life starts at 40” and later I read “40 is the new 25” or something like that. Maybe these days, 50 is the new 35. 

After seeing that post, I am asking myself when did my life start? I had to restart my life again and again throughout my life and therefore, I think I can still restart from today.

The most recent profound change happened to me after my mother passed away. It was just 4 months ago. I care less about things I used to care too much about, I have less fear, less guilt, and I am starting to dream about the things I tried to forget. Maybe my life is restarting again. 

I need to rely on myself and therefore, I need to be strong and healthy at least. In the past, there were times I was strong for others. This time, I have to be strong for myself. 

Just a few thoughts came into my mind this morning.

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